Going back in time, or “counter-factual” thinking, can have mixed outcomes.
“Sometimes when we look back, we think about how things could have been better:
- If only I had gotten that part in that play when I was in high school… then I would have gotten into that great theater program at the Ivy League school and then…
- When my boyfriend in college transferred to a school across the country, he and I were through. I really wish that never happened—my life would be so much better if I were still with him…
- I wish had taken that other job instead of this one when I was in my 20s. I have no idea what I was thinking. My life would be 100% better now if only I had done so…
We call this “upward” counterfactual thinking (see Studer, 2016), and it can be pretty depressing.”
If you, just like me, tend to travel back in time and look back at some of your major life decisions, like me, then you might find this brief article enlightening.
I instantly had a number of very positive, new ideas and feelings! ‘Well done Zoltan!’, I told myself!
I will also use this perspective as a new training tool on my upcoming debriefing sessions of #FLIGBY, the official Flow-promoting Leadership Development Game
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