Going back in time, or “counter-factual” thinking, can have mixed outcomes.
“Sometimes when we look back, we think about how things could have been better:
- If only I had gotten that part in that play when I was in high school… then I would have gotten into that great theater program at the Ivy League school and then…
- When my boyfriend in college transferred to a school across the country, he and I were through. I really wish that never happened—my life would be so much better if I were still with him…
- I wish had taken that other job instead of this one when I was in my 20s. I have no idea what I was thinking. My life would be 100% better now if only I had done so…
We call this “upward” counterfactual thinking (see Studer, 2016), and it can be pretty depressing.”
More here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/darwins-subterranean-world/201809/the-psychology-what-if
If you, just like me, tend to travel back in time and look back at some of your major life decisions, like me, then you might find this brief article enlightening.
I instantly had a number of very positive, new ideas and feelings! ‘Well done Zoltan!’, I told myself!
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