“Christmas time, mistletoe and wine”…and stress. Do you know the pressure of perfectionism this time of the year? If the end of year tasks wouldn’t be enough at your workplace there is still a long list of must dos at home: spotless cleanliness, delicious meal for Christmas Eve and beyond, finding the perfect gift for everyone (in some cases even finding the perfect gift for your spouse’s family members as well), creating harmony (haha…. you are already too anxious and hardly can calm down… so, good luck on that), travel around half of the globe to visit family members and even find a little time for yourself when you can practice mindfulness and recharge for next year.
I know, I am in a really easy situation, as I don’t actually have to deal with any of the above mentioned situations: once I get into a crowded shop filled with tired, stressed people in a hurry, I just simply get out of the shop without buying anything. But when I get into a stressful situation at my workplace, I want everyone else to get out of my way and let me think it through, build up strategy and just to vent first.
As you can see, I put an equal sign between stress and bad as well in my mind, even though there wouldn’t be invention, creation and sometimes not even solution without stress in our lives. The term “stress”, as it is currently used was coined by Hans Selye in 1936, who defined it as “the non-specific response of the body to any demand for change”. Well, can we agree, that some demand of change can be exciting and joyful? That is the so called “eustress”, when there is no threat or fear, just feeling excitement and being motivated to focus on work and study even better. Experiencing too much good stress can turn into bad, so called “distress” though.
– Well, the first type of person which comes to my mind is actually the one you Judit have also described above, is one of the Thinker-types (2)
- The logical: typically starts blaming others for not being well prepared, or fast or good enough, if stress continues, and he remains – because of himself – finally totally alone in this many tasks. He then gets to the wrong conclusion of not having had a good enough plan after all, and then ends up blaming himself for all that.
- Persistor– the man of principle. Close to the logical one, there is another thinker type, it is the person who places great emphasis on values and principles. This person also reacts rather similarly under distress, getting more and more rigid and frozen in the world of would-be-ideal principles.
Happy Holidays to Everyone!
(Co-authors: Judit Nuszpl and Prof. Zoltan Buzady)